Monthly Archives: January 2014

Book Club – Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin

For our last book of 2013, my book club filled with fabulous mama-friends read a memoir titled Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin by Nicole Hardy. It is a memoir that I wasn’t keen to read, but I am glad to share that I really enjoyed this book. Topic aside, the writing is funny, honesty, clear and completely relatable. She writes with an authentic voice that comes off educated and personable at the same time. I found nights where I didn’t want to put the book down. Hardy’s struggle with the way she was raised, the beliefs she cherished, and the life she wanted for herself is something that we can all relate to regardless of religious affiliation.

I admit, I felt skeptical about this book. The things I know, have heard about, and witnessed in my own life, from the Mormon Church are not things that I can say I support or agree with. Starting this book, I wondered if I would feel like her writing was attempting to convert, defend, or highlight the teachings. Yet, she didn’t. Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin is a book that will make you laugh and reflect on your own beliefs.

Her writing was beautifully honest about why the faith meant so much to her and why she felt the connection to her God. And she was also honest about her questions, concerns, and the issues that caused fissures in her concrete beliefs.

Confessions of a Latter-Day Virgin is a book that will make you laugh and reflect on your own beliefs. Nicole Hardy’s writing is graceful in her struggle to remain true to herself and to her faith.

One of my favorite chapters in the book is Chapter 7. She starts the book with an Anais Nin quote.

“And the day came when the risk to remain tight

in a bud was more painful than the risk it took to blossom.”

I read this and heard a loud mental yes! My whole body resonated with this quote. It was recognition of something that I’ve felt in my own life. The pressure to stay in a job or program that isn’t the right fit, to conform to family principles that aren’t my own, or simply the need to step outside of the norm to live an authentic life.

Have any of you experienced the feeling of needing to blossom out of your current existence?

~ jibean

PS – the next book is The Bride Price by Suzanne Popp. Join us and share your comments!

Hello 2014!

If 2013 was the year of exploring options and toying with the shapes our life could take, then 2014 will be the year that we implement the changes to take us there. In my holiday post, you may have read about upcoming transitions that I’m looking forward to. I’m excited to tell you about the first one.

We bought a house! (stay tuned for more transitions coming soon 🙂

This isn’t our first house, however, it has been awhile since we owned our own home. We moved out to Oregon when I was pregnant with my second child and my first was 15 months old. Our last house in Minnesota was a beautiful home full of big windows and hardwood floors. A perfect, dual income no-kids kind of house. We worked it out when my son was born, though when we moved to Oregon we knew we weren’t ready to buy until we got to know the areas a little more. Two years later….

We are beyond excited to move into our house knowing that we can unpack every box, let go of things we’ve been storing and saving for the someday we know we’re not moving again. The house is a family house with a big kitchen and large backyard. A far cry from the city views we used to have, but to quote a cheesy-but-true country song, I love the view “from my front porch looking in!”

{Shameless plug – our realtors, Leslie and Cheryl of the Hilbert Team are amazing! I mean it. They were so on top of details and coordinating bids, contractors, touring, opening the house the day after Christmas to show visiting family, attending closing to make sure there are no surprises, and showed us 50+ houses without losing any steam or pleasantness. In fact, when we saw 40 some houses in 2011, it was me and my pregnant belly and toddler which made us a slow moving client with lots of snack and potty needs. They didn’t bat an eye at buckling the car seat in and heading out to see houses until nap time. If you’re looking for a realtor in the Portland, Oregon area, look them up!}

Anyway, I’ve got to get back to packing! If you have any tips on smooth moving with a 1.5 and 3.5 year olds, let me know here 🙂

~ jibean

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